The One

 

Brother says:

 

11. 7. 5. 3. 1.

These are prime numbers. “Positive integers not divisible by any positive integer other than itself and one (1)”.

 

11. 7. 5. 3. 1.

Those were prime moments. Positive or negative. They can never be deduced into a whole new reality, except by learning from them and applying those lessons to the next, and hopefully the last, ONE (1).

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11 - That’s the number of times I courted girls and found myself saying: “She could be the one!”

7 - That’s the number of times I failed and found myself asking: “God! Are you sure she is not the one?”

5 - That’s the number of times I got into a relationship and found myself exclaiming: “Yes! She must be the one!”

3 - That’s the number of times I was preparing for marriage and found myself proclaiming: “Everyone, listen up! She is the one!”

1 - That’s a time when I was confused and found myself beginning to accept that: “Perhaps, there is no one”.

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11 (Eleven) – That’s the number of circumstances from which I based my pursuit of relationships.

• When I learned that she loves both physics and Picasso

• When I convinced myself that it was “love at first sight”

• When I realized that I liked her smile

• When there was astrological compatibility

• When Valentine’s Day was near

• When the signs around me seem right

• When a romantic song captured my (our) story

• When friends set me up and convinced me that she was the one

• When I found myself capable of doing crazy things to please her

• When I felt that I could save her from whatever misery

• When I felt that I could defy anyone or anything (including my faith) for the sake of “love”

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7 (Seven)– That’s the seven deadly sins that constantly attacked the foundation of my previous relationships.

• Pride –When the heart hardened after the pain and prevented love to flow through

• Greed – The world put on the pedestals (a.k.a billboards) the glory of, and promotes a craving for, power and wealth

• Sloth – Man wallowed on his weaknesses and failed to assert his headship, specially on building a Christ-centered relationship

• Gluttony – Too much intimacy and togetherness, which left no room for other God-given roles.

• Anger – Used pain and insecurities as leverages to justify wrath. Instead of building solid bridges out of painful experiences, anger soaks the ground and turns it into a quicksand.

• Lust – The world conditions man to mix up happiness and pleasure, which calloused the conscience to explore sexual pleasures and to consume, and over-consume, the forbidden fruit.

• Envy – The insatiable hunger of the Id for self-gratification. Wanting, even if its not needed. Claiming, even if it is not his.

During those relationships, God allowed me to experience failures… and pains. Those failures initially crushed my esteem but eventually become solid stepping stones along my path towards where God is leading me. Those pains initially hardened my heart but later on softened when permeated by the love of God.

 

Pain is an essential process through which we need to undergo. Therefore, let the love of Christ soften our hardened hearts and let us “love til it no longer hurts”. For a hard and calloused heart will either deny any love from coming in or will prevent the innate love inside to shine through.

 

I myself have thousands of questions on love and who the right one for me would be.But after knowing that God has a perfect plan for me…

 

I became at peace.

I became still.

And myself, I need to prepare

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5 (Five)– The things that the Community taught me on how I could prepare myself for the “one”

• Prayer – The source of peace and truth

• Study – Lessons on love can be found in the scriptures and from other God-inspired experiences of other people.

• Service – The very first lesson in love is to love without expecting something in return. To love beyond ourselves. To love beyond our family. To love ourselves less and to love other people, especially the poor, more.

• Fellowship – Love can also be nurtured through the support and prayers of other people. The fellowship, a community of believers, becomes a stronghold and guardian of Christian ideals.

• Sacraments – They become, not only the expression of our relationship with God, but become the divine bond that ties the “match made in heaven”.

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3 (Three) – The things that I need to surrender, in order for God’s plan to work through me:

 

“Take and receive, Oh Lord, my liberty. Take all my will, my mind, my memory. ”

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1 (One) – That one day that I would eventually meet her and tell her…

that she is the ONE

Let’s Glorify God in our lives

 

Sister Replied : 

 Snow white was waken up by a kiss of a Prince and Cindrella had a Prince to save her from her cruel family. Every girl has a boy next door and every woman dreams of Mr. Right . I hope for my One true love.

Reality bites.

We don’t live in the Fairy Tale World, the boy next door is not always Mr. Right and  the ‘Knight in Shining Armor’ that we are waiting for must have been trapped. 

 I had my fair share of wishful dreams – that someday, My Prince will find his way to me. The One Prince that will bring my dreams to life.

I am a hopeless romantic. I both loved and failed in trying to find the One. But i guess, i have not tried enough– my quest for him bring forth- shattered dreams, broken promises, heartaches , emptiness  and self indignation. 

I have not tried enough or I never knew what I was looking for. The latter is appropriate, I don’t know what I was looking for, not until now, that I realized that I am God’s daughter – I am special and loved by HIM… and just like a Princess , he created a Prince for me as His gift.

I realized that sometimes it entails  a person to be hurt, so that healing will take place. There’s a need to fall inorder to stand and to be broken, to be whole again.

Life is about living, learning and yearning for love… for God.

In my quest and journey in finding the One, I have realized the following :

• God should always be part, for He is the ultimate source of Love. 

• Acknowledge my inequities and strive to be better each day

• Look back to each experience and purify it with the learnings it taught me

• Listen with my heart fervently and balance what my mind dictates

• Value myself because I am God’s daughter

• Open my heart and pray

• Believe that God is pruning me to be the best for His gift and that He is pruning his gift to me to be the best

• Patiently wait for His plan and His time for us to be  ONE

In our lives , we Glorify God!